Heap Hope Angels

在刚过的礼拜六下午（2008年12月27日），和太太赴了她的大学同学的婚宴后，我们就驱车到CINEPlex去赴两场很MAN的影片。

第一场show是叫做’YES MAN‘。为了不要倒那些可能会去看这部片子的人的胃口，我暂且不在这边大事分享片子的内容。这里只跟大家分享我看了戏的观后感。

顾名思议，影片的用意就是要鼓励大家在生活中要经常保持正面积极的态度，那么，漂亮以及令人垂涎三尺的机会才不会跟我们擦身而过。金。凯利（JIM CARREY）在片中所饰演的主角就是通过了一堂激励课程，而学会如何跟生命SAY ‘YES’，并且从中得到了意想不到的结局，并得到了美人归，升职加薪，一洗先前的潦倒生活。

隐隐约约中，我似乎在金。凯利身上或多或少看到了自己的影子。约３－４年前的我，当时就算是生意并不如先前想象中来的好，但是我依然对任何一个生意契机都抱持着超正面的态度。就这样，我现在的大老板当时因为欣赏我为他分享产品时的那种兴致勃勃的兴奋度，以及我谈吐大胆的风格，而招聘我来他的公司担当培训主管一职。要是当年我因为生意不好而就此放弃一切，向生命低头同时死命跟所有的机会SAY NO的话，试问一下，现在这个待遇颇好，员工福利又到味的职位不是就会与我擦身而过了吗？

再来，一年半前，当我妹妹和老妈子很够力那样地鼓励我参加当年的‘阳光天使’，而内在还相当恐惧的我要不是硬着头皮SAY YES的话（我因为从来都没有真正照顾过任何残障朋友，所以才会开始时有一种抗拒的感觉），我相信我就不会有这个机会到台上演绎我最擅长的搞笑版雷奇并得到当晚的‘最佳男主角’，同时，在今年的12月，也跟美门的其中一个很可爱的志工‘共结连理’。相信认识我的人，都知道我讲的人是‘何方神圣’吧．．．？！

所以，当我们在观赏YES MAN 的同时，我非常的感同身受，因为金。凯利实在太像我了！！其实。。。应该说我实在太像金。凯利！

更重要的是，在影片结尾之前，激励讲师所说的那番话更是引人入思。当时，金。凯利因为sayYES的次数太频繁，而招惹了相当多不必要的麻烦，而迫使女朋友与他大吵了一顿。

生气之下，他就到讲师那儿跟他理论。讲师说， ‘是的，我是鼓励你凡事都要Say Yes，但我并没有叫你就算不想SAY YES时也胡乱地随便答应人呀！！SAY YES 时也要发自内心的啊，朋友！！’

是的！！发自内心的YES才会深入民心，才会让人感觉我们的诚意，并因此毫无忌禅地与我们交往。希望我们都能够成为SAY YES之中的佼佼者！！

由于不想模糊了大家的焦点，我所观看另一个很MAN的戏（叫做IP MAN）就留待下回分享了！！

祝福大家――２００９超丰盛，身体充满无比的活力！！

It was Lynn’s b’day on 28th Sept. As a gesture of friendship, Serena and I went for the K-session that a bunch of Lynn’s good friend had organized for her a day before.

It would have been just about any other gathering for a b’day girl, but this time, it was rather unique. Lynn and about half of the people who turned up are disabled friends.

I was observing how the group of disabled frenz and volunteers actually mingled around and this is what I saw.

I saw how the volunteers went around helping the under-privileged frenz adjust their sitting posture every now and then, I saw them wiping away the remains of food on their mouth after they were fed (by the volunteers too), but most important of all, I saw the pure heart to want to give selflessly and to just brighten up the days of a few disabled frenz.

Also, I saw how our disabled frenz actually went about singing, K-ing and happily playing the arcade games just like normal people, I saw how their faces beamed with joy and excitement despite their disabilities, but most importantly, I saw how this group of marvelous friends can accept their fate and move on very positively in their lives.

And through all the events happening around me, I too saw some of the sad truth about how some friends was actually placed in the same situation as the disable friends as mentioned, yet could not face the reality as well as them.

I have a disabled friend who got paralysed from waist down due to a fatal accident overseas 5 years ago. Back then, judging from his condition, doctor already proclaimed he probably had only 1 month left, and even if he should wake up, he would have been a vegetable.

But he proved everyone wrong and surprised even his parents by not only gaining consciousness after 2 months, but also able to speak (although his speech is seriously impaired by the accident) and go about his daily life independently.

However, instead of counting his blessings, he actually plunged himself into an abyss of blaming his destiny for what had become of him. He was with BG for close to a year, yet he still could not pick himself up from where he was 5 years ago, no matter how hard the volunteers had tried to encourage him.

My initial compassion for him actually turned into an immense feeling of wanting to motivate him by bombarding him sternly how lucky he was that he is having so many people who are so concerned about him. Yet, from the last time I had a chat with him via phone, I could still sense he was still very much on the pessimistic side ever since returning to his hometown 2 years ago.

As such, I personally feel that for those like Say Leng (our DoSomething web master), who not only has a positive mindset about what he wants to achieve in his life, but also stretches himself to motivate his friends like Lynn (he was the one who initiated the K-gathering for Lynn coz he knew it was Lynn’s dream to wanna expand her network of friends and contacts in pursuing her own dreams), it takes great courage and acceptance to be where he is today, in terms of his outlook on life.

So Say Leng, Lynn and my other disabled friends, KuDos to all of you for inspiring others with your great, exemplary example!!

To Lynn, once again– many happy returns of the same day as your b’day!!